019 – The Core Principles of Relationships Part 4: Relationships Are a Trade

The most actionable and empowering principle of relationships is that relationships are a trade. In this episode I talk about why this is the case, how to earn better relationships, building virtues and skills and the powerful role of coaches/mentors/therapists in this process.


This episode is part of The Core Principles of Relationships series:

Part 1: http://www.valiantgrowth.com/e16

Part 2: http://www.valiantgrowth.com/e17

Part 3: http://www.valiantgrowth.com/e18



The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden

The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller

Stefan Molyneux’s Intro to Philosophy


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015 – How I Lost 45 lbs (20 kg) – Systems and Self-Knowledge in Weight Loss

Losing weight is a difficult challenge – and some who achieve it often leave hard-to-follow paths behind them. Add to that a lot of poor and shallow advice out in the mainstream, and no wonder that obesity is still on the rise, despite unprecedented amounts information and awareness.

In this episode I aim to extract the lessons that I’ve learned in my own weight loss journey, and provide tools and encouragement to those who seek to start out on this path. In typical Valiant Growth fashion, I aim to explore both the practical steps and the self-knowledge underpinnings of this tricky subject.

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Weight Chart (kilograms)

Tracking weight, logging food, calculator: www.caloriecount.com

More detailed nutritional information: nutritiondata.self.com

013 – Lifecoaching, The Value of Therapy, Building Communication Skills: Interview with Antony Sammeroff

An interview with lifecoach and Youtube content producer Antony Sammeroff. We talk about the impact of lifecoaching, how it is different (and not) from therapy, how to evaluate whether you are getting proper support, the value of therapy and who it is appropriate for, why and how to build communication skills, and Antony’s new course!

Surviving to Thriving – A Personal Transformation in Six Lessons Course


Ultimate Communication and Power CD

Enrich Your Life (YouTube channel)

The Progressive Parent (YouTube channel)

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber (book)

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie (book)

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg (book)

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012 – The Wolf of Wall Street and Grandiose Dissociation

In this podcast I review The Wolf of Wall Street movie, with a special emphasis on the self-knowledge lessons inherent in the movie.

Ideas discussed:

  • Roles of parents in adult children’s lives
  • Living a life of extreme dissociation can only be lived through extreme dissociation
  • Non-apologies that people make
  • Everyday forms of dissociation and addiction

Correction: Throughout the review, I used the word “disassociation” instead of the correct term “dissociation”.

The Wolf Of Wall Street on Amazon

In the Realm of Hungry Ghost by Gabor Mate

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007 – Choosing the Right Job: Principles and a Framework

There are many situations when you have to decide between competing occupations or sources of income. If you find yourself being lured to many different ways of getting an income, if you are thinking of a career switch, or looking into becoming an entrepreneur and are not sure about your decision, or if you find that your decision has little staying power, this podcast if for you!

Ideas discussed in this episode:

  • The role of parents, peer and society in misleading us when making career choices
  • The need for courage and self-knowledge in finding the right path
  • A (mathematical) framework for evaluating different jobs/income sources

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